Burnout : : the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

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Call Number: 155.904 Na, Adult Book / Nonfiction / Self-Help / General / Nagoski, Emily
On Shelf At: Downtown Library

"This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men--and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life. The gap between what it's really like to be a woman and what people expect women to be is a primary cause of burnout, because we exhaust ourselves trying to close the space between the two. How can you "love your body" when everything around you tells you you're inadequate? How do you "lean in" at work when you're already giving 110% and aren't recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a world that is constantly telling you you're too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish? Sisters Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., the bestselling author of Come as You Are, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of overwhelm and exhaustion, and confront the obstacles that stand between women and well-being. With insights from the latest science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, Burnout reveals: - what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle--and return your body to a state of relaxation. - how to manage the "monitor" in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration. - how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies--and how to fight back. - why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are key to recovering from and preventing burnout"-- Provided by publisher.

COMMUNITY REVIEWS

Don't waste your time on this. submitted by terpsichore17 on June 21, 2022, 12:40pm I picked up this book hoping it would elucidate how to recover from burnout. What I got was a very casual, woman-I've-never-met-calling-me-sister (please stop) buzzword-laden screed about All The Lies The World/Patriarchy Tells Us, Which Are The Only Possible Explanation For Ladies Being Burnt Out (because we don't believe men get burnt out, or don't care).

I'm familiar with the fact that the world, especially the advertising industry, tells me lies! I ignore quite a lot of them! I didn't need 200 pages of shrill repetition putting words in my mouth about what the problem MUST be; that just made me anxious. Chapter after chapter made me want to put the book down, reread Are Women Human? and Why Work?, then go do...literally anything else.

Obviously if their thesis is all about The Science, they can't start from a basis of people as incarnate souls. So I'm not mad at them for that, for leaving out what I believe to be the fundamental reality of being/human worth. But I'm irritated with their dehumanizing characterization of laughter (an "ancient evolutionary system that mammals have evolved to make and maintain social bonds and regulate emotions"), their fast-and-loose definitions, and the cutesy(?) terminology ("the Monitor," "Bikini Industrial Complex," "Human Giver Syndrome," "the madwoman").

tl;dr: I guess I wasn't actually part of their target audience, because I get better advice about self-care, internal narratives, positive re-framing, and the necessity for rest from Tumblr.

Don't waste your time on this. submitted by terpsichore17 on June 21, 2022, 12:40pm I picked up this book hoping it would elucidate how to recover from burnout. What I got was a very casual, woman-I've-never-met-calling-me-sister (please stop) buzzword-laden screed about All The Lies The World/Patriarchy Tells Us, Which Are The Only Possible Explanation For Ladies Being Burnt Out (because we don't believe men get burnt out, or don't care).

I'm familiar with the fact that the world, especially the advertising industry, tells me lies! I ignore quite a lot of them! I didn't need 200 pages of shrill repetition putting words in my mouth about what the problem MUST be; that just made me anxious. Chapter after chapter made me want to put the book down, reread Are Women Human? and Why Work?, then go do...literally anything else.

Obviously if their thesis is all about The Science, they can't start from a basis of people as incarnate souls. So I'm not mad at them for that, for leaving out what I believe to be the fundamental reality of being/human worth. But I'm irritated with their dehumanizing characterization of laughter (an "ancient evolutionary system that mammals have evolved to make and maintain social bonds and regulate emotions"), their fast-and-loose definitions, and the cutesy(?) terminology ("the Monitor," "Bikini Industrial Complex," "Human Giver Syndrome," "the madwoman").

tl;dr: I guess I wasn't actually part of their target audience, because I get better advice about self-care, internal narratives, positive re-framing, and the necessity for rest from Tumblr.

Useful skim submitted by MHZ on August 5, 2023, 11:02am As someone who has experienced and knows others experiencing burnout I found this an interesting read. The idea of needing to complete the stress cycle resonated with me.