Ending 30-year Marriage

I moved in with us," Mrs. Warren recalls. I After she vetoed the triangle living I situation, Bill requested a trial one year I separation. During the year of separation, he I found a job teaching at a university and I asked Mrs. Warren if she wanted to reI build their marriage. "It was at that time that we really I started a good marriage," Mrs. Warren I says. "I was able to accept the fact that I he was not the kind who would be I monogamous, but we had something we I wanted to be permanent." Mrs. Warren and the children accomI panied Warren overseas to organize a program for the United States. Mrs. Warren dates the best part of their marriage during the four years she, her husband and three children sailed extenI sively. She describes the sailing as a team as a "tremendous growth experience. Each of us was doing something vital, each had his own role." Following the four years of sailing, Mrs. Warren says she and her husband becamse involved in social justice and peace activities. "Every time we had trouble in our marriage, it was related to a separation," Mrs. Warren says. What started as a six-week speaking tour for Warren developed into a six-month absence. While his wife was in the limelight of peace activities, Warren asked for a divorce and then married his secretary. "The feelings experienced by a person who has lost a partner through death andonewhohasbeenseparatedbyd vorce are much different," Mrs. Warren I says. ■ She describes her feelings as those of ■ failure and inadequacy coupled with the I haunting question: "Could we have built ■ a better relationship?" The Warrens' youngest child was 18 at I " the time of the divorce. "We thought they were oíd enough so I it wouldn't affect them. Maybe it affects I them more. Our oldest son got divorced I two years later," Mrs. Warren says. Mrs. Warren doesn't believe good I tionships are naturally formed. "I don't I think there are any ideal marriages. If I so, it is because the two people believe it I is worth working on." What about a second marriage? Mrs. I Warren says, "I'd consider it at the drop I of a hat if somebody were around. I I think I'd be much better a second time." Tomorrow: Parents Without Partners.M