Self-control In Society

Kever show tliat you feel a (light. This ia worldly-wlso as wcll as Christian ; for no oue but a mean pcrson will j put a slight on anotlier, and sucli a persou always irofounül}r respecta the person who is unconscions of his feeble spile. Kever resent publk'ly a laok of eourlesy ; il is n the worst taste. What you do prlvately about dropping: sucli au uci]uaintance must be lefl to yonrself. i o ¦ person of nohüa mtrwl, the contestó of society must ever seem poor and spuriOUi U they tliink of these narrow enittitles and low politica! nuuieuvres] bat we know tlmt they exlst, and that we must moet tliem. Teniptr. detraction md sinall splte are as vulgar on a Turkey oarpet and in a na]ace as thcy could be in a tenemenl house - nny, worse; for the edlicated (SOntestants know bettor. 15ut that thcy exist we know as well as we know tliat the diphthciia rages. We must only refleet philosophically that it fakes all sorts of people to make a workl ; that there are jrood people in rank and lile; that tliere is a valiant anny and a noble navy; that there are also pirates who will board the best ships, aml traitors in every army ; and that we must be reudy for theni all ; and that if we live in a crowd, we must propínate that crowd. Never show a factiotis or peremptory irritabHity in smull thin?s. Be patiënt, i f a friend keepa you waiting. Bear, as long as you can, heat or a draft, ratber tlian make others uncomfortable. Do not -be fussy ihoni yoursupposed righta; yield a lüspnted point of precedence. All society has to bc made up of these concessions; they are your unnuniberecl friends in the lony: run. Wc are notalways wronji when we quar''.' ' V.'".;t' vt meet our dèadlicst foc at a friends liouse, we are munj to treat hiui with perfect civility. ïliat is nutrl grounil. Never, by word or look, distuib your hostess. And, In all honesty, cultívale a rraeeïul salutatjon, not too familiar, in a crowd. Do not kiss jrour friend in a crowd ; be grave and decoious always. Iiurke said tliat mannen were more important than laws. "Mainiers are what vex or soothe, comfort or purify, exalt or debase, barbarizo or refine us, by a constant, steady, uniform, insensible operatlon, like the air we breathe." A salutation may have a great deal of meaning in t. It may say, " I respect you, and I wish you well." It may say, "ilove you." It may say, "I hate you." In a crowd, U should simply say the flret. The bow of a young lady sliould be maidenly, qulet, not too denionstrative, yet not cold or forbiddlng, The salutatlon of a man to a woman can not be too respectful. It is to be feared that "old-fashionedcourtesy" has no place in our fashionable society. There is either coldness or too gret familiarity. The maunersof yonng woincn are aptto be toocareless. They emulate the mannen ¦ iliiien of the age too much, not remembertng tliat thcy should cany in tbeir gentle ways the good mannen of all ares. She should reiiienil)er that when a woinan's salutation reases to be delicate, elegant, and tinished, she steps down from the throup and throws awav her ritere is m) uilutaüou i '?'"i """' aifpleailng than that of a too cffioréscent and nattering subservleney. "He bows too low." sliould never be sakl. Avoid being a snob, In private as in a crowd.