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A Chapter On Etiquette

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Day
4
Month
April
Year
1894
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Public Domain
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Dr. Green, the new president of Elmira College, lias suggested rather a novel feature in college Ufe- a systematic sturty of manners. A representativo i-oniniittee of ill the college claK.S';s Ivis been Corroed, styled the ('oim-ii oí Etiquette. [The aim i by etudyirig' the Ix'st authoritjes to become weU verso 1 on all disputed points) Ño provincial codé of manners will d„. imi the standard must be the customs of cultured circles all over the world. Every two weeks some meniber of the counell presents ;;n original rïiscufsion to bë read at chapel to the studeuts. The subjects are variedi the first onp being "Manners in Public Places," svhich a young Juhior treati'tl in ;i scholai ly "viiy. Ot) r i says to foll iw are on "Letters and er Writ'ng," "Chaperons and Tlieir Uses," "Conversatii n. What to ■i A oid," e ". ïlie movement seems to lie a goód í ne, an 1 i lp tlie col■ nified bearing tii.-u she will be expectcd to ha ve ■ gradúate. The Collowing is a resume oí í-1 e aay n manners in public places, preimwil of etiquel ■ e by one of i I - lucí'; bi i a prei io sue of The World : In any . tere shoul i, . lee h manner, with tio loud ■ ing o nal remíirks ■■ hou! I a car, a slight bow or I.rv- ation is all thavt is m Calling ou1 a person's name ii tlie street or on a car is a very ill-bred . althoügl ■■ Many le avIio conáidí i thority on stich matters regard lounging in the presen ;e oí o hers as a mark of ease, but the bes1 si andarás do not allmv it, and in European eountries i! is rqre'.y seen. Never put the elliows or hands on tlie table, and do not mate yoürself disagréeable by drumming with your fingers. Never enter or leave a room 'without a word or look of civility. Aiways gize for any Inconvenienee given however slisiit. One should always leave a room quietly. never taking the preceilence either in leaving or entering. College or Home.- Heve m'anners sliould be just as refined as in the presence of strangers, or on great occasions, so-called. There is only one oode of po'.iteness - a lady sh uld be as tmly a lady at home, where the aesociations ae necessariïy inümate and constant, as in society. Traveling. - Unsi lKshm Ss, dignity and moöesty d'stinguith the gentlewoman in traveling :is wcll as everywhere else. Her dress should be plain and unostentatioue, of some darte or neutral tint not easlly soilimI. A consplcuous gown is vulgar, and jewelry is entirely out of place. On a sleepinj; car a lady's good breeding is teeted as perhapa nowhere else. Tne eonvenienees are limited, and a lack of consideration on the part of one may dlsturb many. I'lenty of time sliould be allowed and the attentions oí the porter should not be monop'.o"zed. Acquaintancesfoimed on the train need not be reeognized afterwards unless mutually agreeable, and remember that dlgnlty and courtesy will do tnore to rebuke rudenees that anything cl ■. Hotels. - It is better fov a young lady not to go t.i a hotel alone unless it Ís unavoidable. Opon arrivlng, v;o at once to the ladies' parlor, and inquire for the clerk, arranglng wlth hini for rooms and a seat ;it th table. In order to avoid the embarrassmem of waiting (or a seat, it Ís a good plan to have a specifiec time for diuing. Courteously greet l.'ulifs whom ypo may meel in the i orriders, but yon need nol keep up the aequaintance afterwards. For meáis a waJk'ng or traveling dress is most sultable. Ful! dress is never proper when ene is alone. on account oí its publlcity a woman'-s condmct Is more apt to be eritlclsed on thestreet than any ■ ; else. ■ '-i y may barely g] ■ .■, every unladj action wil QOticed. I lev vvalklng costume may be ís rlch and wellfitti'.ig as slie chooses, but never i . ware oí 'self-conseiousness on the street. Nothi i see one i ; her dress i;, publli or putting nu and takives. Take a íew moments more to getting ready, so as to be erly attired before goijg out. lio nol swing the anus or link them vvlth another, and walking too fast or too Blowly. There is nothing wrong in a lady's 1; on the streets alune after davk : still bjects her to crltlclsm, and possibly, in large eities, to Insult. In America and England it is a lady's duty to recogñize a gentleman first, but in Germany the contrary rule is observed. A gentleman never ston a lady or offers his hand- i; is her privilege. She decides also when a oonversatlon shall end, and by her manner indicates whether he may join her in her walk. While bowing to a lady a gentleman removes his elgar and In walking or driving witli her ncvcr snïokes. It is not necessary i introiluce acqnaintances on the si reet. and iï one does eo they need nol acknowledge it afterwards. Drlvlng. - Á rather 'gay coftnme is approprlate for dTlvlng. The seat facing the horses is the sent of honor in a carrlage, and is assigned to the oldest lady or the first in rank. The hostess always occupies her own eeat, and qó guesi should allow her to refln it. As ín leaving a room. n guesi always proceeds in entering a carriage. In general, eelfishness is the root of all ill-breeding. A qulet, unpreten:i ms appearanee aqd rlignifled de: m '.-i: 'i . with kind consideration tor others, wil! insure i may journey [rom Ma'ne to San - ciseo. - New York World.

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